10 Things You Shouldn’t Say to a Pastor Right After the Sermon


Preparing a sermon is a lot of work. For me, 10 to 20 hours on the average, plus the hours of contemplating, praying, & thinking.

And, every preacher will agree, some sermons work out well, and some sermons don’t go as planned at all!

If there is anything I am most self-critical about, it is my sermons. If I know that the sermon did not go completely as I imagined it, my day is not the same anymore! Ive learned to appreciate people who take time to give feedback to make me a better communicator, but the feedback is taken much more better a couple of days or maybe a week after a sermon was preached!

Yet, many times, some people give no thought to what they can or can’t say to any preacher after speaking a sermon, and they let their opinions be known!

Thom Rainer, one of my favorite bloggers, has compiled a pretty accurate list of 10 things many pastors hear after a sermon, that probably should not have been spoken after a sermon.

SIDETONE TO PREACHERS: let it be known: the moment your mouth opens, you’ll get criticism.  If you want to be in ministry and be effective, somebody will disagree with you. If we are going to last long in ministry and be healthy, instead of looking for the perfect listeners, we need to learn to deal with criticism. If you have a minute, please read this blog, on what to do after you preach.

Here is his list:

  1. “I am going to be late for lunch because you preached so long.”

  2. “You must not have had much time to prepare that sermon.”

  3. “My former pastor preached a much better sermon from that text.”

  4. “I wish {fill in the blank} would have heard that sermon.”

  5. “You act like you weren’t feeling well while you preached.”

  6. “I’m sorry I fell asleep while you were preaching. Your voice just puts me to sleep.”

  7. “Your subject/verb agreement was incorrect three times in your sermon.”

  8. “I wish you wouldn’t preach from the Old Testament.”

  9. “Let me tell you what you missed in your sermon.”

  10. “Are we ever going to be done with this sermon series?”

If you are a preacher and you are reading this blog, what sort of things have been HELPFUL and ENCOURAGING for you to hear after a sermon? Please comment below.